How to Manage Negative Self-Talk for Success

How to Manage Negative Self-Talk for Success

Being productively self-critical is good. It empowers you to identify areas of personal and professional self- improvement. There is a big difference though in being productively self-critical and being excessively self-critical. Excessive self-criticism (“negative self-talk”) causes people to focus on their perceived failures while productive self-criticism causes people to identify areas where they can improve and get better. The lesson: Proactively manage negative self-talk to ensure that you are productive, not destructive to yourself.

The three key steps to proactively managing negative self-talk are: 1) Awareness. Commit to being highly self-aware of your negative thoughts and emotions. Work to understand your emotional reactions and triggers when they happen. 2) Control. Decide that you do not have to let negative thoughts or emotions control you. Observe the thoughts and emotions, but do not buy into them. 3) Focus. Refocus your brain on what you want your next thought or emotion to be. The more empowering the thought or emotion, the better.

Negative self-talk equates to a negative self-image. If you want to improve something, you have to change how you think and talk to yourself about it. Refocus excessive self-criticism into positive action. Positive action requires confidence and self-esteem. You must believe that you can do it. You must believe that you have the right experience. You must believe that you are worth it. Etc. Confidence and success are symbiotic – the more you have of one, the more you have of the other. Excessive self-criticism negatively impacts confidence. Prevent it.

All contents copyright © 2016, Josh Lowry. All rights reserved.

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One Response to How to Manage Negative Self-Talk for Success

  1. Sterling Garrett says:

    I appreciate the detail in this article. Well written and too the point!

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