Building Self-Confidence

Building Self-Confidence, Ed Mylett

Inspired by the teachings of Ed Mylett …

The foundation of personal development is your identity – how you feel about and see yourself. The better you feel about yourself, the more you can achieve. Your biggest obstacle is your identity. Why? Good people do not take more than they think they deserve. You cannot exceed your identity. Your identity sets your thermostat. If your thermostat is set at 75 and increases to 80, you will unconsciously turn on the air conditioning to bring it back down to 75. To increase your influence and results, you must raise your identity by building self-confidence.

Self-confidence is about keeping the promises you make to yourself. When you are self-confident, you are self-trusting. You can rely on you. Self-confidence does not involve caring what other people think about you, it involves caring about what you think about you. If you are consistently influenced by what other people think about you, there is a deficiency in what you think about you. Your confidence level in a specific area is directly related to the promises you make and keep to yourself in that area. How do you build self-confidence?

  • Proximity – Associate with people operating at higher levels than you. Your thermostat (identity) will increase through positive association with them; e.g., from 75 to 90.
  • Capability – Engage in activities that exceed your current capability (“play up”). When you succeed, you create a new baseline (identity) to operate against.
  • Action – True decisions are always followed up with immediate action. Taking action builds self-confidence as you cannot avoid the work that you need to do.

Keeping the promises you make to yourself builds self-confidence over time. Give yourself credit for doing what you said you would do. Be able to rely on you. Be able to trust you. Do not let the outside world or what other people think about you cause your thermostat (identity) to automatically fluctuate up and down. Control the temperature. Adjust the thermostat to where you want it to be so you can bring confidence and courage to every situation. Everything rises and falls on self-confidence. Build it.

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